Positive Stuff

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A simple lesson that my dear mother taught me years ago, proved itself quite well recently. The most beautiful part was that it was proven through the person who taught it to me!! My mom always said:

“The surest way to feel better when you are depressed is to take the focus off yourself and put it on someone in need of help..You’ll quickly forget your own problems, and remember that you play a larger role in the world, that can make a significant difference”

 

Growing up I remember my mom telling me to help others and stop focusing on myself and my needs, as young people normally do. Kids are the center of their own universe, and if we are not careful, even adults can be as well. I admit that I fought the demon of this self focus “living in a bubble” like attitude, as an adult, but only when in a depressed state. Depression can be like a snake that tightly wraps itself around you, and isolation is the tendency that accompanies this snake’s habitat. When we are down, blue, emotional and even sad, the last thing we want to do is reach out to others in any way, much less offer them assistance. From my own personal experience I can tell you I confuse my loved ones, family and friends as I need their love and support at that time the most…yet I push it away.

Life has away of offering lessons, or healing opportunities, whether we are ready, open or even willing to accept them. Just before Christmas, I got a call that my mother was suddenly very ill, and would most likely pass away within a few weeks. My own welfare completely went out the window at that point. All that mattered was getting to California to be by my mother’s bedside. Though in pain, I could hear my mother’s voice telling me “it’s time to take the focus off yourself, and be of service to someone in need”…and that I did.

My daughter and I got on the next plane and got to her granny right away. For the next two weeks we took 3 hour shifts during the night, administering morphine to her, and never leaving her side. The energy I needed was simply there as I called upon it, and has been ever since. I seem to have a renewed strength, attitude and outlook. You just never know what experience will pull you out of the dullness, and into the brilliance of regular everyday life, with all its glorious simplicity. I am grateful for this lesson, and thank my mom for teaching me something so powerful.

Creative Commons License photo credit: roseakantha

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The past two weeks have been very emotional ones for me and my family. My 92 year old beautiful mother was diagnosed with “metastasis of unknown origin” and passed away on December 20, 2011. She was a very classy, sharp, and youthful woman, who lived life to the fullest and touched many lives. My mother was a professional woman, with a journalism degree from USC, who loved to study many things, including astrology. She plotted charts for people on her Apple computer back in the 70’s when NO ONE had a home computer, or knew who Steve Jobs was. She loved metaphysics, world religions, poetry, art, french cooking and culture of all kinds.My father and she started the first color photographic lab in Hollywood in the 50’s which became a very large and successful company servicing Aerospace, Advertising and professional photographers nationwide.

She loved being a grandmother, spending every day with me when my 3 children were little and grew older. My oldest daughter is especially close. Those years are some of the fondest memories I hold, because I got to spend so much time with her as she was “Granny” to my kids.

My mom lived in pain for much of her adult life. She had a severe back problem, which was complicated by surgery, scoliosis and failed “hardware” that was inserted in her spine years ago. Living in pain was simply part of her everyday life. All the while, she went on with a smile and most everyone knew nothing of it. Such is how we live with fibromyalgia.

When I moved to Salt Lake City, my mom living with me was out of the question, as she has lived in California her entire life.I am extremely grateful that my mother was able to live with my sister for the past 5 years and be cared for in the best way possible. She was able to avoid a nursing home entirely, which I will never be able to repay my sister enough for all she did.

As she got much older, she would tell me that she did not fear death, but welcomed the relief from her pain when the time came, as well as being in the spirit world. She had a clear conviction that she would be near me, my sister and our kids every day, and I feel it as I write this. As she went through the final two weeks of her life her cancer pain was horrific, and I hated to see her go through that, but was so very grateful that I could be by her bedside, taking care of her all the way to the end. I held her hand as she took her precious last breathe, and saw many visions of her joyously walking into the light joining my dad, her parents, and all her relatives and friends. She was very close to Jesus, and knew without a doubt he was with her throughout her life at all times, and always reminded me, when I needed to remember I am not the one ultimately at the wheel.

Jacqueline is on a new beautiful journey, and though I will miss her, I am so excited for her. She is free of pain, and dancing on the eternal dance floor!!

I love you mom.

 

 

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New Hope

by Laura

Hope is a feeling of POSSIBILITY. The door is open and the LIGHT is here! I feel JOY, celebration and warmth and wanted to share it with YOU . I feel hopeful for the first time in a long time, and am thankful for the simplest things… like little grandchildren staying in our home, loving family to share a meal and a prayer around our table each night, a new FM medication (Savella) that is actually working, and my teenage daughter getting a new job .  The most marked improvement I feel is SPIRITUALLY, as it relates to many long months of the darkness of DEPRESSION. I feel the SPIRIT, and have a distinct sense of comfort again from God.  If you suffer from depression you know what I am talking about. 

I wish this same joy and HOPE for you.  Open yourself up to the possibility of NEW HOPE in your life! Life can change very quickly…be ready! 

“I offer you peace. I 
offer you love. I offer 
you friendship. I see 
your beauty. I hear 
your need. I feel your 
feelings. My wisdom 
flows from the Highest 
Source. I salute that 
Source in you. Let us 
work together for unity 
and love.” ~ Mahatma 
Gandhi

 

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It’s been a bit of a breakthrough and a relief, to be living my life transparently. It can be quite a burden to carry, almost like living a double life, which goes way back. I can remember being told years ago that I had a double edged sword to deal with, as I looked perfectly normal to everyone, yet had a myriad of issues going on inside. This is usually the case with autoimmune conditions. The MS society had an actual t-shirt that said “But You Look So Good!”

At the time I got sick to begin with I was in control of my entire world, or so I thought. Maintaining a handle on everything around me as young mothers do, to any degree, even if I was only lying to myself, meant that I would not lose “me”.  Only those very close to me knew the truth.  As I grew in the business arena I was afraid that if people knew my frailties and imperfections, they would lose confidence in my leadership ability, my competence and my strength. It takes a ton of energy and strength to maintain the illusion of being “ok” . It’s actually made me sicker, more stressed, more depressed and fatigued to keep it up!

I know now that all of that does not matter. It is far more important to me to be ALL of who I really and truly am, and expose myself authentically, no matter what that looks like. To me, if a friend is withholding a large portion of themselves in fear of letting you down, they are already letting you down, because they are being inauthentic, disingenuous, and incomplete. If they leave you because they cannot handle it or they think less of you, maybe you should question if they are your friend to begin with or, what their motives are in your life. Wouldn’t your friends want you to be as well as you could possibly be?  [click to continue…]

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A God that can bring something this breathtaking and naturally beautiful before my eyes today, can help me to see all things in a new way. I am embracing the color in life, and am so grateful I see it!. Amen

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When you think about what you should do how do you feel? Up until a few months ago I really didn’t give much attention to this word in my vocabulary. I had cleaned up negative self talk for the most part, and replaced it with positive, empowering language.

Would you consider Should to be a positive word? A negative word, or maybe just neutral?

 

I took the liberty of looking the word up:

shouldVerb/SHo͝od/

 1. Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions: “he should have been careful”.
2. Indicating a desirable or expected state: “by now students should be able to read”.

Interesting.

Several months ago I was at a gathering and was fortunate enough to meet a very sweet man who happened to be a Reiki Master.  Sometimes our bodies and our minds guide us far more than we know, and we have little to say about it. Your subconscious mind knows what it needs and attracts it. We have “chance” meetings with people who are angels in our life, carrying powerful messages, and we must always be open and allowing for the information. I’ve noticed people in my life have been given such gifts, and if they are not open, something life altering can slip right past them. [click to continue…]

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A dear friend gave me a very needed “kick in the pants” over the weekend, in a most loving way. He shared with me a simple course correction that I could make in my approach to life that would have a significant effect on my happiness. It was so impactful that it touched me emotionally. Well..it slapped me between the ears and upside the head actually! That’s the mark of TRUTH lazering in on the SOUL. I remembered that this same friend had forwarded this very special article by Dave Saunders to me, and thought , “I have read this information many times and I must not have been ready to “get it AGAIN”…just when I needed to apply it most! So I decided to post this special article adding what I like to call “FORMULA FOR BREAKTHROUGH”…..entitled:

BE-DO-HAVE  By Dave Saunders

I reached a point where I had done well, but had hit a plateau.  I wanted more.  I wanted to build my business more successfully, and I wanted to continue growing.  I asked a trusted mentor what to do.  His response: “Be Do Have.”

I had heard this lesson before.  In fact, I had heard it from more than one person.  And it wasn’t the response that I was looking for.  I wanted to know what to do!  I wanted him to tell me what to do so I could go work hard and create explosive growth in my business.  I was willing to work hard—really hard.  In fact, I was willing to work harder and do more than anyone else.  Isn’t that how it’s supposed to work?

I decided to take a breath and be a bit more receptive.  “Okay,” I said, “tell me how Be Do Have is going to build my business.  Although the truth is, what I really want to know is just what to DO.” [click to continue…]

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This week’s  Guest Blogger Shanna Maretsky,  is my beautiful daughter! She is a mother of a 5 year old son Hunter, and is a full time college student in the field of Respiratory Therapy, graduating in February 2011. Shanna has endured many obstacles as well as personal triumphs as a single mom, mastering The Law of Attraction. At a very young age she showed a keen knack for creative writing. I am excited to have her as a guest blogger from time to time because her life seems to be in “FLOW” at the moment! She is attracting magic and miracles, and our readers will find interest in her travels!  Shanna has tremendous vision, creativity, courage and determination to succeed in her life.

The month of September is SERVICE MONTH,  and just under the wire we wanted to devote this article to the concept of Service.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
Mohandas Gandhi

By Shanna Maretsky

Most of us are very fortunate. Though we can easily get caught up in the daily struggles of our own lives and families, we truly have so much to be grateful for. It’s when we can think beyond ourselves and show compassion for others that we really can share the gifts of our abundance.

The simple act of volunteering and reaching out in the community is a remarkable way to see how much value each of us has to contribute when we put our minds to it. If everyone made a conscious effort to regularly make a difference in the lives of others the world would be a much more harmonious place.

Today I had the opportunity to get my hands dirty and work with the amazing employees of Home Depot who volunteered their time, materials and labor to landscape the YWCA of Salt Lake City. In a few short hours, Team Depot was able to create beautiful gardens and grassy areas for the families who call the shelters at the YWCA home. The response from the facility and its residents was so immensely gratifying.

It’s in those moments that we forget about ourselves, and apply our energy with such a positive strength that nothing but goodness comes from it. Plants and flowers embedded in the earth will serve as continual reminders to pay our gratitude forward and spread beauty throughout our lives.

True fortune isn’t a dollar amount in a bank account; it’s the feelings of abundance that grow from gratitude, joy and compassion.

We have the choice to shine our light of compassion today and everyday. No matter how you choose to do it, you will only be adding good to the world.

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I have been spending  some time the past week studying “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther and Jerry Hicks - The Teachings Of Abraham. What I am confirming in my mind very quickly is that we are all vibrational beings, attracting to us that which is vibrating at the same frequency of our desire emotionally. As we see the pictures in our mind of our desires, they create an emotional frequency, and the more we concentrate on them, the stronger the attraction frequency becomes. It’s like an emotionally charged, vibrational magnet, and you can’t stop it if you try. Your desires are in motion, and come to you naturally and easily.

Conversely, if you are emitting negative emotions, thoughts and words, this is resistance. It puts a roadblock in the way of your desires. Abraham calls it “paddling the boat upstream” against the current! But imagine “turning your boat around” and ALLOWING YOURSELF TO FLOW downstream….what could happen? See the pictures of your desires in your mind regularly, with added positive emotional frequency. The results are magical, and what can be almost TURBO SPEED to the degree that you wonder why the heck you were wasting so much time “paddling upstream”!! [click to continue…]

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A New Contributor

“The Gratitude Goddess”  Shanna Maretsky

“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was,”thank you,” that would suffice.”

-Meister Eckhart

Thank you.

Is it possible that those two little words could be the key to abundance and even better, true happiness?

I’m no stranger to the law of attraction. For years, though, attracting joy and abundance seemed impossible.

Impossible, because I didn’t believe it.

Impossible, because I focused on the multitude of negative circumstances that had come my way and while at first I couldn’t actually see it, it became evident that the more I focused on the negative, the more it was that negativity seemed to surround me.

I was buried. Day after day I was caught up in a cycle of misery. I hated my job, my personal life was in shambles, and I was so far away from being my true, authentic self that I’d often cry myself to sleep wondering how I got myself into this place.

Who’s life was I living? How did I get here? But more importantly, HOW do I change it?

For me, changing my life meant creating a clean slate, and starting all over. I left the familiarity of my roots in California, and transplanted myself to Salt Lake City, Utah. It was drastic move: a complete gamble. I had the safety and security of my family to count on, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to do.

I made superficial changes, got a new hairstyle, went to parties, found a job to get me by, and all in all I was making it. I had started over, but didn’t have any true direction. Six months into this “recovery” process, I wasn’t really any better off. I realized that I had run away from some of the physical issues that were holding me back but continued to allow the negativity concerning what I was lacking to dictate the course of my reality.

“It’s the law of attraction,” my mom said. I had heard it so many times, I’m sure at one point I just stopped listening. But as it turns out, the simple principle of saying Thank You was the answer I had unknowingly been seeking all along.

She simply pointed out to me that what you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.

Maybe that was it. Could it really be that simple?

Oprah Winfrey says it perfectly,  “I live in the space of thankfulness — and I have been rewarded a million times over for it. I started out giving thanks for small things, and the more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased.”

I began to wonder…How could I live in a space of thankfulness?

And suddenly, as easily as you can turn on a light switch, I changed my mindset.

Look at how much I had to be thankful for. I often said, out loud even, that on my very worst day in this new life of mine, it could never even compare to the unhappiness I was living in before. How could I not be thankful?

For the first time, I was in control. I could make the choice, because it is a choice, to BE positive and BE in gratitude and BE happy.

When you can learn to be grateful no matter what happens in your life, and say thank you for everything your entire world will change.

Say thank you to a friend for being there when you needed her.

Say thank you for the sunshine on a warm spring day.

Say thank you for the morning cup of coffee that motivates and comforts you.

Say thank you—even for the challenges, seeing them as opportunities for learning and growth.

Say thank you, because you can know with an unshakable faith that no matter what happens, you’ll get through it.

Say thank you for the trust to believe that it’s true.

Now, hear this though. Just because it’s SIMPLE, doesn’t mean it’s EASY. There are times when it’s hard to be grateful. It’s in those moments however, when you feel the LEAST thankful, that you can benefit the MOST from it.

This past November, I embarked on an experiment. Why wait till Thanksgiving to be thankful? I chose to recognize one thing, every day for the entire month that I was grateful for. I would then post these acknowledgements to the universe, and in this age of technology, my public statement came in the form of a Facebook status update.

What happened next astonished me. It became increasingly easy to find things to be thankful for. At one point I even said it was hard to limit myself to just one public outpour of gratitude per day. So I didn’t hold back. Friends and family soon commented, “What a great idea, I’m going to do this too!” I was quickly distributing a gift to everyone I knew-the gift of gratitude.

The more I acknowledged the goodness that surrounded me, the more I had to be grateful for, and as if it were magic, more good things began to happen and I was blissfully more aware of them then ever.

Needless to say, the gratitude didn’t stop at the end of the month, or even the end of the year. It multiplied and flourished and continues to surprise me every single day.

I’d like to share this simple gift with you, too.

The gift is this–

Focus on gratitude.

“Gratitude truly opens your eyes to the incredible abundance that is all around you. Make gratitude your constant companion and that abundance becomes yours to live.”- Ralph Marston

This will be a new Category “Tab” The Gratitude Goddess with continuing content from time to time.

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Note: The Goddess Known As Jacqui Gates Thoroughly Loves Shanna’s Self Labeling..

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